I have a hard time inviting dudes to my site.

[Morgain]

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My experience is that speaking in very general terms males flourish in focused, structured zones. There needs to be a topic that interests them like practical things. how to stuff, specific areas of politics/ economics, sports, crafts, gadgets, how to cope with or get women (lol) etc
Males communicate via tasks and skills.
They also love statistics, numbers, the biggest, the first to ...

So 8thos I'd make sure you have focused forums/ threads on male type topics and make them specific. Dont go elsewhere for what you want - start your own content and tell other boards about it.

Females communicate much more directly person to person and will communicate further in a 'fluffy' way which can be apparently meaningless, but functions as bonding glue. A high female count means a community which sustains and welcomes new members.

Males assert their individuality by disagreeing. It's often a strong need in that way but doesnt mean serious conflict. Something females find hard to understand and shrug off.
A male is first and foremost concerned to express who HE is, what HE thinks. He is trained to assert his own content, not so much to link and follow on. He has less interest in what someone else thinks, and is not considered rude or immature for it.
Males make good pokes/ stimulators and initiators but if in a majority communication can get too chopped up, jumping around instead of sequencing. On the other hand males work well in teams with better ability to stick to task without being blocked by the personal stuff.
There is also the culture of dickwaving which all secondary males compulsively practice, teeing off and point scoring. They love ratings and scores. Mature males not so much.

Females also want individual identity but deep down they know their power base is in groups. They are good at commenting, linking, adding more, and support.They focus on the whole person rather than a task. This is good and bad. Good for mutual support and building understanding and respect but vulnerable to personal fallouts.

In terms of argument females are slower to argue but just as sharp when they do, or more so! Female conflict is often more serious - we're very prone to outgrouping to make ourselves feel secure in our selected group. The scapegoat outed can be pretty random but nonetheless it can last quite a while till the next victim is chosen. The previous one then has a chance to quietly work their way back by expressing solidarity and support.

Me I enjoy both but prefer a slight majority of females to reduce endless dickwaving which to me is boring. A small majority of females auto selects those males strong enough to cope.

 

[LPH]

Morgain - thank you for the wonderful post.

I just looked at my sites that I'm combining [in terms of your thoughts] and now see why my sister is always poking at me to get things fixed. LOL.

 

[TPerry]

Has a lot to do with your topics and member base. As a guy I personally don't have any interest in being an active member on a general/off -topic forum, however if it's something that I'm into...

With my site being about dirt bikes/motocross, I have mostly guys on the forum and find it hard to get ladies.

Yep... most of my members (my site is non-brand specific motorcycle discussions) are male. Of course, there aren't that many of them right now - still trying to figure out how to draw the crowd in. But even if it doesn't take off I'll still run it for just the ones that are there now - plus it's a hobby for this old retired guy.

 

[DRE]

My experience is that speaking in very general terms males flourish in focused, structured zones. There needs to be a topic that interests them like practical things. how to stuff, specific areas of politics/ economics, sports, crafts, gadgets, how to cope with or get women (lol) etc
Males communicate via tasks and skills.
They also love statistics, numbers, the biggest, the first to ...

So 8thos I'd make sure you have focused forums/ threads on male type topics and make them specific. Dont go elsewhere for what you want - start your own content and tell other boards about it.

Females communicate much more directly person to person and will communicate further in a 'fluffy' way which can be apparently meaningless, but functions as bonding glue. A high female count means a community which sustains and welcomes new members.

Males assert their individuality by disagreeing. It's often a strong need in that way but doesnt mean serious conflict. Something females find hard to understand and shrug off.
A male is first and foremost concerned to express who HE is, what HE thinks. He is trained to assert his own content, not so much to link and follow on. He has less interest in what someone else thinks, and is not considered rude or immature for it.
Males make good pokes/ stimulators and initiators but if in a majority communication can get too chopped up, jumping around instead of sequencing. On the other hand males work well in teams with better ability to stick to task without being blocked by the personal stuff.
There is also the culture of dickwaving which all secondary males compulsively practice, teeing off and point scoring. They love ratings and scores. Mature males not so much.

Females also want individual identity but deep down they know their power base is in groups. They are good at commenting, linking, adding more, and support.They focus on the whole person rather than a task. This is good and bad. Good for mutual support and building understanding and respect but vulnerable to personal fallouts.

In terms of argument females are slower to argue but just as sharp when they do, or more so! Female conflict is often more serious - we're very prone to outgrouping to make ourselves feel secure in our selected group. The scapegoat outed can be pretty random but nonetheless it can last quite a while till the next victim is chosen. The previous one then has a chance to quietly work their way back by expressing solidarity and support.

Me I enjoy both but prefer a slight majority of females to reduce endless dickwaving which to me is boring. A small majority of females auto selects those males strong enough to cope.

Wow this is the best advice anyone has ever given me and thank you for sharing your wisdom. Some males on my site have constantly complained about the site not being focused to a specific genre. Some want it to be about videogames, some want it to be what it was actually created for. Those who were upset about the site losing it's purpose (teaching people how to copyright their work) and like Digital Jedi said it did change names and purposes (was a videogame site at one point), eventually left cause I could not make up my mind what I wanted the site to be about.

Most of the time more women are online than men and if a dude gets into an argument sometimes other girls jump and they somehow make that dude look stupid. It even happens to me sometimes. Some dudes can't handle it. The men who can actually handle talking to, flirting or fighting with more than one women at a time usually end up sticking around but these men are far and few between apparently. That's why I said earlier I need to stop inviting fellow nerds such as myself cause we're usually shy and just stick together. Lets be honest though a group of nerds together can be quite boring. It's the kind of thing that makes me appreciate less intelligent and more ignorant and foolish people more because they entertain us and talk about or do the stuff we won't do/say.

But yeah I have noticed that women don't have to be focused like men do they are just here for whatever. They are cool like that.

 

[Lucas]

My experience is that speaking in very general terms males flourish in focused, structured zones. There needs to be a topic that interests them like practical things. how to stuff, specific areas of politics/ economics, sports, crafts, gadgets, how to cope with or get women (lol) etc
Males communicate via tasks and skills.
They also love statistics, numbers, the biggest, the first to ...

So 8thos I'd make sure you have focused forums/ threads on male type topics and make them specific. Dont go elsewhere fo...

Sounds like Discovery Channel, so I guess we're really still just animals.