Obviously, if I want add'l features, for the most part I have to develop them myself, because XF is a small community despite its hype. I've found some of the stuff I need, but I really don't want to be developing complex extensions for a 200 member community.
But this was the kicker... I got wind of a critical security fix for XF here: http://www.webdesignforums.net/threads/xf-vulnerability-found.37686/
Followed the link, only to find that I have to purchase an upgrade to get a critical bug patch.
That's the thanks I get for being an early adopter. I have to pay you guys to fix critical bugs in your code. Ridiculous.
XF lost my business today.
PS - I half-expect this thread to get deleted. Would definitely confirm my decision for me.