Surely, for most of the things people are talking about in here, the onus is on you (the admin/owner) to provide such features to your member base? One person's modern take is another person's nightmare.
I see forums that have no shiny theme, little in the way of addons, yet they have millions of posts and members and look to be anything but dying - I'm not sure they would appreciate all the changes people are proposing. I, personally, have spent £1000s on my site (and I know it isn't to the majority of people's taste but that's my choice and what my members want), but I don't want, or think, the software needs a complete overhaul to survive. I'll agree it needs some tweaks, and I think everyone agrees the what's new/new feed doesn't work or deliver in its current format. Just lately, I've had talks with different admins about a new what's new/news feed addon and in all honesty, I've pulled out of discussion fairly quickly because everyone has a different vision about what is ideal - most time it is just about what their own sites need - now imagine XF trying to cater for 1000s of admins all with different ideas, they can't just copy and paste in some code and move on to the next feature/idea, that would be a distaster and the possibly the end of XF.
We WILL get new features, but I'm sure it will be a balancing act to provide what is best for the WHOLE XF community and not just the select few who shout the loudest.
Could communication be better for the XF team? Most definitely, I'm sure they will admit this themselves, but there is no doom or gloom; our forums still work. And no, I'm not a fan girl, I can be super critical of the XF team or any developer when I feel it is justified.
Anyway, I've got covid, I'm grumpy, I'm away back to my wine cave.