May i suggest tough love. Just let her cry it out.Thank you soo much! I really like your suggestion...am definitely going to try this and i'll let you know about the results. I am sure its difficult, coz my baby, at 1 year 9 months, can manipulate others,hahaha. Even her nanny whenever she asks something, she needs to get it otherwise she would roll down the floor, cry, scream and will really emphasize what she wants something till she gets it..but thanks anyway for this wonderful tip.
Thank you soo much! I really like your suggestion...am definitely going to try this and i'll let you know about the results. I am sure its difficult, coz my baby, at 1 year 9 months, can manipulate others,hahaha. Even her nanny whenever she asks something, she needs to get it otherwise she would roll down the floor, cry, scream and will really emphasize what she wants something till she gets it..but thanks anyway for this wonderful tip.
My #1 rule with little kids is never... NEVER lose a battle of wills with them, try to avoid one though the mantra of "Distraction, Redirection and Tickling ". But if you can't avoid the battle of wills, NEVER EVER lose. If you do, you are only teaching them that they need to push harder and throw a bigger tantrum to get what they want. The trick is to pick your battles, don't say "No" casually, but if the answer IS no, then that's what it is, period.
Boy I can testify to this. My son has a mood disorder in addition to the asperger syndrome/ADHD, and he is very prone to tantrums and severe 'meltdowns'. The distraction/redirection method is the only thing that works for us. However, it doesn't always work and sometimes I just have to let him have his tantrum or meltdown. Over the past year or so, he's beginning to realize that when his tantrum is over, the answer he got before he let loose, is still the same answer afterwards. The tantrums have been decreasing, needless to say.Some great advice in there James
I completely agree with the above, and forgot to mention about the distraction and redirection... So glad you brought it up James! lol that is a brilliant and very easy method that really does work.
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But the point is that little kids actually want this level of control from the adults around them, it makes them feel safe and they quickly learn that life is a lot more fun when they follow the rules.
No, it's illegal and you can go to prison for that. If i ever see a parent hit their child, i will call child services.Do parents still spank? I think that helped me a lot.
I think it still helps me somedays, too
BS. Sometimes you just have to.Don't let your kids cry.
You can here in Australia... thank goodness, because sometimes kids just need a smack on the bum. All this naughty corner crap just isn't working. Hey... even I gave it a shot, and what we ended up with was a disrespectful bugger. A smack on the bum is different to flat out laying into a child / hurting them by leaving marks. Straps and things, whilst we got them as kids, they do hurt and shouldn't be used. Threats go a long way with children... and they are a parents best friend. We often have to carry through with them to ensure the child knows we are serious, but most kids avoid punishment when they know a parents boundaries.Do parents still spank? I think that helped me a lot.
I think it still helps me somedays, too
BS. But i respect your opinionBS. Sometimes you just have to.
Well, I know plenty of parents in the US that do, as well. It seems a bit too much of a coincidence that around the same time that "SPANKING IS CHILD ABUSE, GIVE THEM COOKIES" and "NOBODY CAN LOSE A GAME, WE'RE ALL WINNERS!" became the theme for children that we came upon the "What can you do for me" Generation. I'm not going to say it's definite, but I think if more parents spanked their kids there'd be less teen pregnancy, fewer murders and more unicorns running wild in freedom.You can here in Australia... thank goodness, because sometimes kids just need a smack on the bum. All this naughty corner crap just isn't working. Hey... even I gave it a shot, and what we ended up with was a disrespectful bugger. A smack on the bum is different to flat out laying into a child / hurting them by leaving marks. Straps and things, whilst we got them as kids, they do hurt and shouldn't be used. Threats go a long way with children... and they are a parents best friend. We often have to carry through with them to ensure the child knows we are serious, but most kids avoid punishment when they know a parents boundaries.
Saying that... teenagers are then vastly different again and require an entire mindset change...
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