I am not asking the question. Rather this thread is about the question. This article shines a light on something that goes unsaid. It's one of those unconscious social gestures: http://www.cnn.com/2011/10/25/opinion/granderson-what-do-you-do/index.html?hpt=hp_c1 My experience is the same as the author's. You can't escape the question when entering into a new social situation, and your answer affects how you are treated.