My mom is being moved out of Surgical Intensive Care tomorrow - or at least we hope she is.
Almost lost her this past week. I had a bag packed and was ready to jump in my car and head to Florida this past Tuesday. She had surgery a week ago this past Friday, and was doing pretty well, was even in a regular room.
Then last Monday she had a bad reaction to the pain medication she was on, and went into respiratory distress. They had to call the emergency response team twice that night. Monday she was moved up to surgical intensive care, sedated, intubated, placed on a respirator, and restrained. She's been like that til yesterday, when she was doing well enough to remove the breathing tube.
I talked to her just a few minutes ago and she sounds much better.
So spend what time you can with your mothers, if at all possible. I live 2,000 miles from mine, and haven't seen her in over a year.