My members are getting distracted by certain features available by default on xenforo. Example: the ability to "see" what other members are up to. Click on a user avatar, for example, and see that the user is "engaged in conversation." OMG! What is this person talking about? Me? When forum members let their humanity hang out, this all-too-human trait of wondering "what people are saying about me behind my back" becomes a distraction. Is there a way to prevent this and get the focus back on the forum's threads? What do you do, if anything, to prevent your forum from becoming a "whisper center" or a perceived "whisper center," a collection of cliques?