I'm not for or against anything. However, the lesson of "call home", "dongles" and many other intrusive technologies have been learned in the past. As it stands, I find even the add-on upgrades and downloads quite tedious....I'd much prefer a true wordpress-like system. And, if that existed, I'd gladly give up some privacy and prove that I am an owner...
There is no right or wrong in these matters. In fact, if XF decided to be a $700 forum system (skim the real cream), then they'd have a larger percentage of corporate customers and some of these suggestions might be fine.
The market is a strange and sometimes bewildering thing. I invented one product and made the mistake, according to an economist friend, of selling it too cheap. He said if I priced it much higher, people would believe it was worth more (and it probably way, but I based price on my cost...not the value).