Even though we were rivals I did not feel like we were rivals because my site started out as a copyright tutorial and general entertainment forum, his was a Muslim site centered around Desis (East Asians) but he still considered my site competition nonetheless. We shared some of the same members and even moderators in some cases but in the end, I stuck to recruiting members from Social Networking sites to further differentiate the membership base with people who knew nothing about the previous forum and drama etc in an effort to start fresh and two years later I succeeded.
His site was also xenforo. I say 'was' because he deleted his site yesterday. So do you have a rival too or used to have one like in my case?