It was the same way in vB, it annoyed me as a dev, so what I did was add a admin setting to choose to go in the left or right column. The setting was in correlation to a conditional in the template. Could you not do the same thing with XF?
Sure it may be up to the developer, but as a developer to make your product fully featured, and give the people running the mod the option to choose which row the link goes into seems like a no brainer.
Too many times when a developer creates a product they only look at it from their point of view, and no from a end users point of view.