My forum is now 3 weeks old, it gets thousands of hits per day already. I am grateful to have made the decision to get on the Xenforo platform, so much so that I am writing a full length article detailing my last 9 months journey so others don't have to struggle quite as much. I will place the article in the Warrior forum where my search began and also on my own blorum. If I can place it here I will do so also.
Having said that, a few amazing people, such as Borbole and Andrej, saw me struggle through my many countless posts here and I just want to extend my special thanks to them for having stepped forward, out of their own, to grab my arms and pull me out of this seeming mess I had gotten myself into. I want to share a brief snippet of one of the Skype conversations I had with Borbole, who graciously gave his approval for reposting this part.
CHA~ZAY: so amazing, the slider can wait, this was super important, thank you!!!
BORBOLE: You are very welcome. Glad to have been of help
CHA~ZAY: more than that, thank you very much! If there is anything I can help you with, pls ask. Really appreciate your help!!!!
BORBOLE: I meant it when I said that I was glad to help. You know, you are always very polite and always say Thank you to everyone that helps you
CHA~ZAY: very kind and sweet of you wish more people were like that; oh, you noticed that??
BORBOLE: Yes, I did notice it
BORBOLE: Most users just don't know the word thank you anymore
CHA~ZAY: I agree
BORBOLE: What I wanted to say, when someone is nice and polite I am nice and polite 10 times back
CHA~ZAY: it's a means of energy exchange. always taking and expecting and never giving in exchange makes the energy stagnant
BORBOLE: Exactly, you hit the nail on the head
Why am I sharing this with the public at large? For two reasons. One, because I am baffled at how many add-ons here are free and how people moan about having to pay $5 or $10 for an add-on, something that will make their forum better and more attractive to viewers. In my world where I come from anything "I get I pay for". It's a simple gesture of energy exchange, a means to express gratitude. Granted, there are a few people who charge an unfair amount of money just to install an add-on. After having learned this task myself I am equally as shocked to see some of the prices people charge just to place a simple add-on for someone who is technically challenged. They're creating their own reality and in the end they may have money but by means of taking advantage of people who don't know any better.
People like Borbole and Andrej, in my humble opinion, have my trust first and my money on top of that. It's my trust that is priceless.
And I'm also sharing this because saying 'thank you' to your coders, developers and to XF goes so much further than you will ever know. People work hard here to help each other build their dreams and a simple 'thank you' may make someone's day or week even.
I do not know Borbole or Andrej personally, we live in different countries and I don't know what happened in their lives the day before they offered their help to me, I was a complete stranger. What I can tell you is that I am deeply grateful for anyone to lift me out of this technical soup I had gotten myself into. I struggled, they saw it and they stepped in.
Borbole had seen me say 'thank you' to other members on the forum before and he noticed and remembered. Imagine if I was a bossy, ungrateful twitchy old crank, you think he would have helped me? Hardly...
Borbole and Andrej spent hours over several days in helping me, expecting absolutely nothing in return. What fueled their continuous giving? Perhaps my gratitude and acknowledgement of their time. I didn't take them for granted, on the contrary.
Thank you, Borbole and Andrej, your help meant the world! And a special thanks also to Mike who rebuilt 5 missing columns to get the forum back up! Your guys rock my world (don't get any ideas now).
Oh and by the way, yes, I did make donations to both and I always give donations for free add-ons. It's the right thing to do and keeps the flow of energy going.