I'm not talking about one single person, I am talking about multiple problems with finding reliable people from hosting, to tech support and design. I guess I need to find people who own a business as their livelihood? For instance, I never had a problem with URLJet, when I was using their hosting for other forum software. So I guess that is the type of service I'm going to have to look for for my xenforo forum even though it's expensive for my small, slow forum.
Does something let URLjet exist here? It's seem a though the "vast majority" of people offering services on these sites are doing so not as a bigger business but as a way to make a little extra money on the side maybe? I dunno.