To answer my own question....
My poor mother I feel has been societies dumping ground. She grew up in an abusive home, was denied a complete education, only to marry an abusive man, and when she sought to escape all that & pick up the pieces, society and bureaucratic democracy kicked her down for it. Respectfully, she now has some health issues and some mild mental issues as well. If you lived her life, you would too.
She very well can't live with my younger sister who has an apartment with her husband and 3 daughters (12, 8, 2) as they don't really have the space for her. Not to add that I feel the stress of 3 children running around all day, my sister working nights, and with my mother's obsession of picking up after people, wouldn't be a good combination.
After having a few slumlord (bad landlords), she found herself temporarily in a homeless shelter. I tried taking her into my place right away... But my ex-wife was very abusive (yes, women can be too). So until that problem was removed, I couldn't take her in right away.
Thankfully today she now lives with me in my 2 bedroom apartment. She has the master bedroom and a whole new bedroom set to go along with it. I love and respect my mother, but like with any family we have our moments. But in the end I can't complain and in many ways I think we help each other.
I can't help to think that if my sister was the one who took her in, she would be seen as a loving & caring daughter....
You see....The one draw back in society is even though she's living with me, the automatic assumption that you can't argue no matter how incorrect it is; is that you're 31 years old man and living at home with your Mom. Needless to say my social life has taken a hit. I don't know many understanding women who can easily accept that for what it is. And yet... If I hadn't taken her in, not only would I feel complete bad inside, I would have been the biggest jack-a** there is.
Respectfully, this is one of America's short comings in social development. Just about everywhere else in the world (on the planet), I would be seen as an honourable, respectable, and even dependable young man. Here in America, even though I'm trying to do the right thing... I'm seen no less as a bum living at home with his Mom, even though she moved in with me and I'm trying to be a good son & a good man.
This apartment will be hers in the end. It is very difficult for her to get an apartment and I've already added her onto the lease, the landlord here is very nice, and I'm in good standing with him (I do the yard work in spring, summer, fall, and also snow removal in winter time). I'm trying to save up as I can, so that I may get myself a new place in time and she may keep this place for herself.