What i want to do is create a custom front page, within the XF wrapper (Header) my custom stuff (Footer) so that the Home tab displays my custom content.. would also like to have the sidebar active but that is not a big deal if it can't be displayed
i used xenforo porta but its not the kind of home page i want.
i know some big boards like IGN have achieved this
Take a look at the code, as well as the XenForo Connector. They are both great places to begin. You'll need to do custom coding to get things working on your own site, and that's possible with lots of elbow grease and time.