As as outsider viewing the xenForo debacle from afar, you really need to log in and restore faith in this community. I think the very act of seeing your avatar in the online box would fix 80% of the situation. You don't even need to post or do anything. I know getting a divorce can be tough but taking 1 min out of your day to log in and see what the community is becomming will surly help you make xF better. That is all.