in my experience, google is really slow at picking up changed content on existing pages unless the url changes. it does not use indexnow and sitemap wouldn't have an updated date if the thread time was also not updated at the same time.
indexnow is a good fix for this but they don't use it. i have bing index threads instantly at times if a thread updated in backdate (title change that changes the url). though i am not sure if pushing post urls do much with indexnow which is what xenforo does for new posts in existing threads.
if you do want the content to be indexed on priority, best to submit it through search console.