oh it would still be so nice to have a private forum for this.
Hi ladies. I was on the origins of this thread as Shanj but have been absent for a while.
My absence has been mainly because mother died. That created a big interlude.
6 months later I'm doing fine though. VMy mother was very old, suffering, and frankly had always been a hugely toxic area of my life though also I loved her dearly and owed her much. It's a colossal relief to no longer live with that weird tension. My health and my marriage, everything is improving now I have more available energy for my own use. I feel better than for many years.
Catching up on lady gossip here
KIM was amazed at your son's story and I am so glad his is coming through. Of course having good parents makes all the difference to such an experience. My sympathies re your brother. It's not true it never stops hurting (said after a long life! But it does take a long time.
LIZ sympathies on your mother.
SUSAN I know what you mean on the forum choice. I looked at IPB too but the mods are few, support crap. Far too many tiny upgrades. Nor did I find the code easy to edit. Hope it works for you though.
JO hope xf works for you.
Sitewise I am keeping my business site on VB - a big mod we really need. But I have another more community type site I can revive with XF.
Also pot of gold! I have found a really good coder who simply does what I want without fuss. He doesn't yet know XF but I'm giving him a test install on one of my sites to play with.
Expect great things because on vb he's is just a whizz and only started learning vb 2 months ago when he started working with me. He is just so good to work with - fast, polite, absorbs what I want neatly, no jargon, £20-£30 an hour - and he packs a lot in an hour.
I'll introduce him when he's got XF tamed.
My avatar is Rhiannon my new kitten - maine coon. She came to comfort me because our lovely Etsaana had kittens and we kept one who we all adored but especially me. Sadly the ghastly FIP killed him at 4 months. We do not forget him.
Rhiannon lies sprawled on my chest as I type, when not being a bounce bounce all round the room. I have to use capslock quite a bit as typing onehanded.
Hi ladies. I was on the origins of this thread as Shanj but have been absent for a while.
My absence has been mainly because mother died. That created a big interlude.
Sorry about your mother...it hurts to lose a parent regardless of how your relationship is at the time.
Update on my weigh loss...I hit my original goal of 135 on Sept 26th, 8 months and 2 days after my surgery. I now have a new goal of 125. I'm hoping to get there before the end of the year. The last 10 pounds was very slow going and I don't expect the next 10 to be any easier. That means I have lost 68 lbs so far and aiming for 78.
I'm working with someone to put a database together for my new effort. I had the asp code and needed it transported to php. I will port one of my XF licenses to that domain when it's ready...it's still very much a work in progress.
I've been busying moving (to a "new" house) across town and getting everything settled. The house is over 70 years old so it's been interesting working on it.
Liz
My mother was very old, suffering, and frankly had always been a hugely toxic area of my life though also I loved her dearly and owed her much.
Wow this thread is 33 posts? I bet 90% posts are dudes.
Sounds hot... and scary!You're surrounded by vaginas in here darling.
Diets are hard...I was on one most of my adult life...and every time I lost weight, it all came back and brought friends. I am no longer dieting...the only thing I worry about getting is enough protein and I aim for 90-120 grams a day. After that if I have any room left, I eat other stuff.Woo hoo YOu must be so proud of yourself! Brilliant job.
I am on a diet currently, it's going really well, but the weekends are what kill me lol, when Hubby is home and we live it up >_< lol
Diets are hard...I was on one most of my adult life...and every time I lost weight, it all came back and brought friends. I am no longer dieting...the only thing I worry about getting is enough protein and I aim for 90-120 grams a day. After that if I have any room left, I eat other stuff.
Thanks for the kind words...I am still in shock as how different I look now over what I did look like at my highest. Funny thing, I always thought I looked like my paternal grandmother...and now I am seeing my Mother in my mirror staring back at me.
I believe that weight loss is just common sense.. put less energy in to your body than you consume in a day.. and your body will burn the rest of it's needs from your reserves of fat, that is in fact what they are there for. So long as you keep your protein intake solid, and you get sufficient good healthy lupids per day, your body will burn fat not muscle, and it's all good.
Funny you are thinking you look like a different relative now I guess the change is taking some getting used too, not just for you but for those around you.. what does Hubby think?
But there are those of us who did follow the rules and still gained weight...and for us, surgery is an answer.
Hubby just grins...
Hmm...*casts Invisibility and hangs around*
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